Have you ever wondered how people look so happy doing whatever it is they love, even if they don’t get paid to do it? Have you ever wondered if you could do it too? How can you find internal peace and happiness?
Well, today’s question is: How can I make my soul happy? Something that has been on my mind for a while now and I can say I found the “how” for myself. To me, it’s kind of simple, and the more I realize, the more I see that a lot of people don’t experience that pure joy in their life.
So here are a few of my personal tips to find what makes your soul happy. READY?
When was the last time you smiled at something you were doing, that the hours went by and you didn’t even realize it?
For me, it’s painting. I have to seriously put a timer or alarm clock for lunchtime because I can paint for hours and it makes me so happy inside. It doesn’t necessarily need to be a hobby, just any action that takes you to your happy place. When the hours pass by, and you don’t even realize what time it is, your passion flows through.
2. Find the time
Now this one can be a bit tricky, but writing down a daily schedule can help to manage your time. As a stay-at-home mom myself, keeping a routine to find these small spaces in my day to do these activities helps me to get there.
3. Serve someone or give someone a hug
Sometimes we are so caught up in our own internal emotions that we forget to think about others outside our immediate family. I’m talking about a stranger or acquaintance.
Have you ever been to a homeless shelter or an elderly home?
If you haven’t tried it (this isn’t me bragging about doing it), from giving someone a smile, a hug, or even listening to someone tell their story, the joy that you provide and also get in return by simply being there for others is truly beautiful.
Moreover, some folks out there are really lonely and a kind gesture can help not only their life but yours as well. Choose any type of charity; sometimes the best for our soul, are the things that don’t even involve money. Volunteering your time to someone or something helps counteract the effects of stress, anger, anxiety, and combats depression.
4. Choose your daily activity
This can be literally anything, from exercising to dancing or simply stretching, it will get your body moving and activate your creativity.
Dance even if you feel silly; every morning, my two-year-old and I crank up some music and just dance for the fun of it. It gets the mood for the rest of the day just right.
On the other hand, you might enjoy singing better, it doesn’t matter what it is, just do it!
5. Find your community
For instance, I live in a small town, so I looked online for communities but maybe you don’t have to. Instead, go to your local community, if you don’t want to do things alone you don’t have to. For everything out there, someone is already a part of, it’s just a matter of searching for it.
6. Take a break
Taking a break or simply going on a walk can help you refresh. Occasionally, when we don’t feel inspired for anything, we just need a quiet space to tune us back in. The times that I’ve felt the most stressed out, going outside helped me the most.
7. Make a list
List ALL the things that spark joy, this doesn’t necessarily need to be a hobby or a person. It can be something very simple like taking a bath and drinking a glass of wine while you read. Even if the list seems crazy in the beginning, keep going! The ideas will start flowing.
For example, my list includes writing, reading, and hugging my children. It can seriously be anything…
8. Try something outside your comfort zone
Yes, I know! This one can be super scary but maybe you haven’t found what makes your soul happy because you haven’t experienced it yet, or know it’s even out there for you to try.
Have you ever wanted to try something so bad?
Think about that one thing and try it as soon as you can. I promise once you feel it, you won’t want to go back.
9. Be yourself
Now this one is a bit confusing for some, because… what is even the meaning of being yourself?
Well, that’s the thing.
Learn the good and the bad about you without judgment.
Ask yourself, what about YOU makes you feel proud or happy?
It takes work and you do need that internal conversation in order to find it. As you try to find out how and who you are, it can be tempting to compare yourself to others which can set you back. However, by doing this, it will only restrain your growth.
If you’re a traveler like myself, I get something from traveling that I can’t get from anything else. I feel like an exploring toddler, my mind takes me to places that I saw in books but get to see in real life, that is crazy! My imagination just flows.
Sometimes, it can be hard to find what makes our soul happy because we don’t know everything that is out there for us. And traveling can expand our minds in that way.
11. Pet an animal
I don’t think I need to explain myself very much here.
Go pet a puppy! (with consent obviously), but I’m serious, it is life-changing.
If you’ve never been to an animal shelter, I highly recommend it. Not only you’ll be providing a home to a pet, but the love you’ll receive back from your awesome new friend is unbelievable. Plus everyone needs cuddles.
12. Enjoying the process of finding it.
I’ve encountered people throughout my life that feel frustrated because they can’t find that spark outside of their family or work, which can be frustrating and set us in an unhappy routine.
Being patient with yourself is key in this process.
What might help is making a visual of what you love on cardboard or even Pinterest if you feel really stuck.
Yes…I know, Ugh! Believe it or not, it really does work. For me especially, it was a dread because I felt that it was a waste of time. Plus, it was really hard, in the beginning, to clear my mind and keep quiet. So I started with guided meditations from youtube videos, with just 10 minutes a day. It isn’t much but it has made a difference in my life.
Have you ever tried it? If so, how did you feel afterward?
14. Being flexible and letting go.
Forgiveness, this one is a tough one even for me. I’ve never been one to hate or feel hatred but I do feel sad at times without knowing what to do with those thoughts.
If you want to look at it in a selfish way, for me forgiving feels like I let go of weight on my back that I’ve carried for so long. An exercise that helps is Ho’oponopono, which in summary means ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you’, which you can easily find on YouTube.
So don’t do it for anyone else but yourself, because truly you are the only one affected when you cannot let go of the past or a certain situation.
15. Stay positive and smile
As human beings, we change and are ever-evolving. In fact, you might have noticed that even six months ago today, your life has changed drastically. Even if it doesn’t seem like it.
So staying positive can be exhausting at times, because at times our surroundings aren’t. But we can at least start by not complaining.
Many years ago, I read this book that helped a lot in this area: A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanteda – Will Bowen
16. Love yourself
I know this is very cliché and absolutely everyone says it, but it’s for good reason because it really is life-changing. First, you can start with self-care, feeling good on the outside can also spark it on the inside. After basic grooming, continue thinking nice thoughts of yourself. Of course, being your own hero can be a lot of work but the greatest joys are when you are happy with yourself.
17. Seeing people’s inspiring stories
Have you ever felt like you resonate with someone so much online and they feel so familiar even though they are complete strangers to you? You may even deeply admire them and feel like you know them even though you don’t. Thus, figure out what it is they’re doing that sparks so much happiness in your life and you can start there.
In the end, all of these suggestions are benefits for yourself, your well-being, and those around you.
Besides, it can be that simple to activate your dopamine (the happy hormone), if you were to do the activity that makes you happy at least 15 minutes a day; your entire day would change and progressively your life too.
Hopefully, you take the time to make your soul happy starting today!
You deserve it.
I would love to hear any ideas or experiences you’ve had that take you there.